October 15-Wave of Light

...The Congress, by Senate Joint Resolution 314, has designated the month of October, as "Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month" and authorized and requested the President to issue a proclamation in observance of this month.


NOW, THEREFORE, I RONALD REAGAN, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim the month of October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. I call upon the people of the United States to observe this month with appropriate programs, ceremonies, and activities...

(taken from the 1988 Presidential Proclaimation)


With all the publicity and marketing of Breast Cancer Awareness, it is not really a shocker to me that people are unaware it is also Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. We are overlooked. At times I feel I have way too much 'awareness' of this topic, but I do know too well that the silence surrounding the girl's death is often the hardest part of it to take. The fact that it is taboo to talk about it. Like we are morbid or obsessed if we mention our child's name. To me, they are still my children and I love to mention their names and speak often of them.

So how to spread awareness? Well, sometimes I am stronger than other times. Sometimes I have more energy for this, and other times I am using all my energy to just get myself out of bed in the morning. I have posted things on my facebook for all to see. I wish I had made a pink and blue ribbon to wear or tie on a door knob or something. Pink and blue are the colors of Pregnancy and Infant Loss. But the way I like to remember and participate is the Wave of Light being held this Friday, October 15th at 7 p.m. If we all light our candles at 7 pm our time zone we will have a continuous wave of light around the world.

Remember Grace and Olivia as well as all babies who were born to soon and never got to come home. Never got to sleep in their mother's loving arms. Never got to live. I miss and remember my girls every day but I am glad there is a specific day set aside for everyone else to remember them.